How to Make Good Decisions
Decision-making is a tricky thing, right? Why is it that some decisions are sooo tricky but others are really easy?
Well, it depends on what kind of person you are in the genetic blueprint. I’ll be talking more about that in the New Year, and going into some detail about the 5 different types of people. But it is interesting to see what decisions you find difficult or easy.
For example, one of my friends is a clear-cut businesswoman. Decisions that others might find difficult, she finds very easy. But put her in a book shop and tell her to choose something and she’ll be there for hours, completely unable to only choose one book.
And Why Is That?
Well, I can tell you in her case it is because the book would be for her. Whereas the business decision is for the team, or the client, or the supplier.
What are the decisions you find difficult?
Depending on the kind of person you are, the tricky decisions will be difficult for one of these reasons.
1. The decision might be about you – something that benefits you. If you are someone who carries guilt around or has self-worth struggles, then this is the kind of decision you will find tricky. Should you leave the career you hate to do something you would love but would have a financial impact on the family? That will be a difficult decision for you.
2. The decision might have too many options. If you have not tuned in to your intuition or are someone who finds emotion difficult – then this will be tricky for you. Because it will be hard for you to feel the right way to go.
3. Fear of missing out. By choosing one thing you are turning down another, and what if that was the wrong choice? What if people thought you were stupid for that. This is down to a lack of self-confidence.
4. Fear of it not being good enough. Perfectionism is a disease that translates into procrastination (not being able to make a decision).
So how do you get over this and get good at making decisions?
Because you see, it is a skill, like most things – that can be learned.
The first thing is to be able to tune into yourself, and to your intuition. There are various tools you can use to help you tune into your intuition. Of course, we love body testing. If you don’t know what that is then message me! Basically, your body knows the answer, which sometimes your mind won’t recognise because it overthinks things in an effort to keep you safe.
But a good way to start on a path to be able to grow your decision-making skills is to start small. Get used to making small decisions instinctively. Just go with what feels right. And then experience what happens. If you choose one chocolate that you didn’t like – is it the end of the world?
Give yourself a time limit for making a decision. Making decisions is easier with a time limit.
A third tip is to ask yourself the question – “Will it matter in 10 years’ time”. For most things, the answer to that is no. But even if the answer was “yes”, almost everything is reversible. There are very few irreversible decisions.
As I have said before, knowing your WHY, who you are, and what you are here to do, makes all decision making so much easier. So, do you know your WHY? And in terms of Finding Your Why – where do you need more support right now?