Maybe you feel like you need to make a change? Perhaps you have a sneaky feeling that you aren’t good enough, and you need to be better / try harder / be more?
If you do you are not alone.
Many people are constantly searching to be ‘better’. And what they mean by that is better than others, or measuring up to certain external standards. We are brought up in a society for example, where academic qualifications are highly valued, which is not of itself a bad thing. However, SO much emphasis is put on this that some people go their whole lives trying to validate themselves through qualifications. If they don’t have the qualification they can’t be any good – is their misguided thinking.
A friend of mine has 20 years experience in recruitment and HR, she knows more than many people with HR qualifications, but for a while – had this fear in her head about even mentioning that this was a service she could offer because she didn’t have a ‘CIPD’ qualification.
And that happens a lot.
I have some suggestions about how you can be better, but before we get to that, let me ask you a very important question – why do you want to be better? And better than what?
If your answer is in any way relating to not feeling ‘good enough’ then let me stop you right there and say – you ARE good enough. I will repeat that. You ARE enough. You can try and be someone else, but that will never work because you are you and no-one else.
If you are trying to be better because you want some external things then OK, but that is temporary. So what I mean by that is – if you want to be earning another 2k or 20k a month, and you achieve it – then you will be happy …….for a month, or 3 or possibly 6 but then you will get used to that and want to be better again.
You cannot link ‘being better’ to a new car, a house, more money. Because nothing external will ever be enough.
The only way you can be better is to be better than yourself. The only competition you an ever truly have is yourself. Oh and while I think about it – you cannot love others more than you love yourself. That’s something I want you to think about. If you want to be better because you don’t love yourself – then you will fail. Self love – easy Tiger – I’m not talking about that sort of self love, I mean really knowing accepting and liking yourself, giving yourself the compassion and care you give to your partner, your children, your family and close friends. Self love is the most important thing of all. A blog for another day.
So back to being better.
All, you can do is be better than you were yesterday. Here is my top tips for being better than yesterday:-
- Don’t over think things – get on and DO it.
- Never be satisfied – always look for ways to improve
- Don’t be afraid of failure, failure is just learning – adjust and move on
- Own it when you fail. Success only comes from owning it all.
- Surround yourself with people who are taking you into your future not hanging onto your past
- Work on your mental strength resilience and confidence. What is inside shows up on the outside
- Go for simple over complicated
- Start before you are ready. If you wait for perfection you will never start.
- Make time for recovery and rejuvenation – every day
- If you need permission you probably shouldn’t do it. People who are determined to achieve their dreams – don’t wait for someone else’s permission.
So – don’t compete with others only yourself, but you don’t have to work this out on your own and you don’t have to do it alone. Come and find us on the Find Your Why Page on facebook, and you can find out about the Live, Love, Laugh Lounge and the Man Cave where our WHY’s women and men support each other to be better (than themselves) every day.
And however today is going, remember to Live, Love and Laugh Everyday and continue to be you in your own unique way!